What does Counselling involve?

As a counsellor I am not there to sit you down and tell you what to do - instead I will encourage you to talk about what is bothering you in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking. Together, then, we may work together to create a plan of action which will either help you reconcile your issues or help you to find ways of coping. Because of this I will take time to develop an open, trusting, non-judgmental relationship between us, which is at least as important as any specific skills I may have.

Before we start work together we would normally meet for what is termed an "initial assessment". This provides an opportunity for you to introduce me to the issues that concern you, for me to confirm that I am equipped to help you (and if not, to assist you in finding someone who is), and for you to determine whether or not you feel the same.

Under normal circumstances Counselling sessions will take place one-to-one in a private space, lasting between 50 minutes and 1 hour, on a regular basis (preferably weekly). Confidentiality is guaranteed by the Association of Christian Counsellors' Code of Ethics and Practice (which can be viewed here), and we will sign a Counselling Agreement establishing the basis of our work together. At present, in line with current Government guidance, I am currently only offering online sessions, however this is always with the intention to working face-to-face as soon as circumstances permit.

We may do many things, in addition to simply talking, as part of our work together. It can often be helpful to use creative techniques (images, painting or drawing, role play, tableaus) to explore your feelings - please don't let the prospect of this concern you, though, as we will not attempt anything without you being completely happy to engage with it. I may also ask you to read things, journal, or complete other simple "homework" in between sessions.

For other frequently asked questions see here.

Please feel free to contact me if you have any other questions or concerns (call 07947 027359 or email j.nelson.pocock@gmail.com)